The Way of a Heart-Centred Changemaker: 10 Rules for Creating Positive Social Change From the Inside Out

The Way of a Heart-Centred Changemaker: 10 Rules for Creating Positive Social Change From the Inside Out

Are you a changemaker? Do you have an inextinguishable fire in your belly to make a difference. Live by these 10 rules to leave your unique mark on the world #fempire #fempirecoach #changemakers #bethechange #socialchange #changeagent #personalgrowth #entrepreneur #leadership #femaleentrepreneursOriginally featured in Ariana Huffington’s THRIVE GLOBAL on June 29 2018.


I see you.


There’s an inextinguishable fire in your belly to make a positive difference.

Maybe you don’t fully understand why, but you feel it, without a doubt.

You know the world’s predicament and you wish you could do more.

It pains you to see how far we’ve drifted collectively from the things that sustain and nourish us.

You know there’s a better way.

And you’re determined to help steer this big ship called humanity back onto the right course.

You must keep playing your part. The world needs you.

Live by these 10 rules to leave your unique mark on the world.



1. You Change the World By Being the Happiest Version of Yourself.

You don’t have to do huge or amazing things to change the environment around you. You have a positive impact by being the happiest version of yourself. You know this to be true when you’re in the presence of someone who’s authentic, happy, and lit up from the inside. Their enthusiasm and positive energy ripple outward and you can’t help but be uplifted when you’re around them. They inspire you to be more and do more.

When you live in full alignment with your values, you feel happy. Happiness is a choice, and you can choose to be happy by being true to who you are. It’s not easy, but it’s possile.


Your job is to be you and be you fully.


You know how it is when you’re in the presence of someone who’s negative or pessimistic, right? It’s draining. You can literally feel it impacting your energy. Be the person who’s happy from within and positively impacts everyone they come into contact with.

Authentic self-expression is your gateway to genuine happiness and when you’re happy, you change the world.Tweet it


2. Purpose is Power.

Whether you believe you’re someone destined to impact millions, or whether you know intuitively that your purpose is to nurture and inspire the small circle within which you orbit, you need to find what your unique purpose is. There are so many ways you could help change the world for the better, but you can’t do it all. Find the particular area that you feel called to change and throw everything you’ve got at it. You’ll be more impactful when you’re laser-focused and clear about your unique mission. 

What’s the unique mark you want to leave on the world?

Not sure yet? Discover your unique purpose in my free E-Book PATHFINDING: HOW TO FIND YOUR INSPIRED PATH & PURPOSE.


Positive change in the world starts with ourselves. Here are my 10 rules for creating the change you wish to see in the world, from the inside out. #fempire #fempirecoach #changemakers #bethechange #socialentrepreneur #personalgrowth #entrepreneurship #leadership #femaleentrepreneurs



3. Be The Change You Wish to See.

If you want to create peace in the world, start by cultivating peace within yourself. Inner peace is the fertile soil from which true power emerges. 

Some of the most powerful changemakers in our history have also been the most peaceful.Tweet it

Make peace with the past. Get help if you need to. Make your personal growth your priority. Cultivate genuine self-awareness. People are far more willing to listen when you come from a place of compassion, understanding, and non-judgment. Try to see all sides of a situation and be willing to seek win-win solutions.

Be the change you wish to see in the world.


4. Focus on What’s Going Right, Not What’s Going Wrong.

Nothing beneficial comes from complaining and whining about what’s not right. Expressions of anger, resentment, and self-righteousness cause people and organisations to get defensive and protective, and that’s not a place from which you can effect change. Put your attention instead on what’s working.


Gratitude and appreciation are the express highways to optimism and empowerment.Tweet it


Appreciating the positives generates goodwill. It’s motivating and uplifting. And it’s the place from which true change can emerge.


5. Pay it Forward.

As a changemaker, it’s your job to be a catalyst for those around you. Display random acts of kindness. Just as a rude person can destroy your day, a friendly smile or gesture from a stranger can change someone’s day for the better. Count your blessings and pay them forward whenever you can.


6. Know and Protect Your Boundaries.

It’s not possible to ‘be the change’ if you’re feeling tired, depleted, or frustrated because your needs aren’t being met. It’s not selfish to set healthy boundaries and protect them fiercely – it’s essential. Put your own needs first. This is the highest act of self-love. And when you feel good, all those around you benefit too. If in doubt, refer back to Rule #1.

Need help establishing healthy boundaries? Check out my article: Open Heart, Big Fence: How to Maintain Strong Boundaries in Business and in Life.


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7. Play to Your Strengths.

To be effective and impactful, you need to operate in your ‘Zone of Genius’. The world needs those special gifts that you have, no matter how insignificant they may seem to you. Get serious about discovering your unique strengths and find a way to contribute them in service to your unique purpose.

Don’t know what your unique strengths are? Uncover them all with my free Natural Strengths workbook: UNCOVER YOUR NATURAL GENIUS: Complete Strengths Analysis for a Lifetime of Fulfilment and Success.


8. Call Yourself Out on Your Own BS.

Don’t let yourself get in your own way. All those little voices inside that tell you that you’re “not good enough”, or “smart enough”, or “good-looking enough” are BS. It’s your primitive ego talking whose job is to keep you safe and comfortable at all costs. But the magic happens outside your comfort zone.


If you want to grow, blossom, and make an impact, you’re going to have to get used to feeling scared and uncomfortable.Tweet it


Get used to feeling the fear and do it anyway.


9. Trust That Life Has Your Back.

Your path won’t always be easy. But trust that those experiences are created to teach you specific qualities that enable you to grow and to do your specific work in the world. Your greatest insight can come from your deepest suffering. The greatest human achievements have come after immense and enduring pain.

Trust that everything is unfolding exactly as it should.

You’re right where you’re meant to be, and you’re always being held and guided towards your highest good.


10. Find Your Tribe and Collaborate

Find the people and organizations who share your values and ideals and then connect and collaborate with them. Don’t try to operate in isolation. Recognize that when you collaborate, a nеw energy іѕ сrеаtеd that’s bigger than the sum of its parts. Reach out. Ask for help. Get yourself a mentor. Start discussions. Let camaraderie and teamwork be your goal. Keep your focus on the bigger picture and recognize that true power lies in doing it together.


No act is too small to make a difference.

And never underestimate the ripple effect of your actions.



Are you living your truth?

Palliative nurse Bronnie Ware famously wrote in her original blog ‘The Top Regrets of the Dying’ that the #1 regret of dying people is: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

Discover the five pillars of authentic living so that you can finally feel genuine freedom, fun, and fulfilment in your FREE E-Book THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO LIVING YOUR TRUTH: DISCOVER THE 5 PILLARS OF AUTHENTIC LIVING.

In service to helping you live your brightest life,

Kate De Jong, Ph.D
Fempire Coach for Thriving Female Entrepreneurs

The Happiness Key: How to Become One of the Rare 15 Percent of People Who Enjoy Genuine and Lasting Happiness and Success

The Happiness Key: How to Become One of the Rare 15 Percent of People Who Enjoy Genuine and Lasting Happiness and Success

Did you know that 95% of people think they’re self-aware? But only 10-15% actually are? Find out why, and what you can do to become one of the rare ones who is able to enjoy genuine and lasting happiness, greater levels of success, fulfillment, and better relationships. Give yourself the gift of self-awareness today! #selfawareness #emotionalintelligence #success #happiness #authenticity #fulfillment #mindset #successmindset #happiness #EQ #fempire #fempirecoach

‘Self-awareness’ is the ability to see ourselves clearly, to understand who we are, how others see us, and how we fit into the world. It’s the conscious knowledge of one’s own personality, character, feelings, and individuality.


Did you know that genuine self-awareness is the greatest gift you can give yourself, your business, and the people in your life?


Here’s why. People with a high level of self-awareness have been shown to be:

  • More fulfilled.
  • More creative
  • More competent.
  • Better communicators.
  • More promotable.
  • More effective leaders with more profitable companies.
  • More powerful and better negotiators.
  • Happier and more successful.
  • Perform better at work.
  • Have stronger relationships.
  • Less likely to lie, steal, and cheat. (Tasha Eurich, TEDx, 2018)


Those are pretty compelling reasons to become more self-aware don’t you think?

Self-awareness researcher and expert Dr Tasha Eurich calls self-awareness a ‘meta-skill’ because:


“Self-awareness is the underlying foundation to all of the skills that are required to succeed in the 21st century. It affects your emotional intelligence, influence, persuasion, sales. If you are not self-aware, if you do not understand who you are, how others see you, and the role you play in the world, you are going to come up short.”


According to Dr. Eurich’s extensive research on self-awareness of thousands of people over several years, there are two types of people:

  1. Those who think they’re self-aware (95% of all people).
  2. Those who actually are (10-15% of all people).

That’s a staggering statistic!


Around 85-90% of us are either lying to ourselves, in denial or just not seeing ourselves clearly.


This is why ‘360-degree reviews’ – surveys that allow your managers and colleagues to provide feedback on how you behave in the workplace – can be shocking for many people. Because often, it’s the first time they realize that others do not view them in the same way that they view themselves.

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Can you picture someone you know who might be lacking self-awareness? Perhaps they’re easily triggered and prickly, or over-controlling of situations and people, or simply difficult to relate to or to work with. Perhaps they don’t seem very happy.

Now try to picture someone who seems self-aware. Perhaps they’re easy to get along with, accommodating, understanding, consistently positive and able to apologize when they’re at fault. Isn’t it so much easier to work with someone who’s self-aware? Deep self-awareness makes us more rational, more open, more intelligent, and more thoughtful.

According to Ray Van Gilst, the key qualities of someone who is self-aware in the workplace are:

  1. They understand their emotional impact on others (they have high Emotional Intelligence)
  2. They recognize their weaknesses and aren’t afraid to admit them or get support for them.
  3. They lead with their strengths.
  4. They know their limits.
  5. They’re able to anticipate reactions and respond effectively.


But if it turns out you’re one of the 85-90% of people who aren’t self-aware, all is not lost. Self-awareness is a skill that can be learned. If you want to grow your own and/or your team’s self-awareness, you can. You just need to know how.



3 Ways You Can Become More Self-Aware


1. Take at Least 3 Different Personality Tests

Personality tests work by asking you questions about yourself, and then they use your answers to tell you about yourself. Realizing where you fit into the broad spectrum of human behavior can be very enlightening. Knowing yourself intimately gives you more authentic power.

No matter how hard you try, you can’t excavate your subconscious thoughts, beliefs, and feelings on your own. And because so much is hidden from your conscious awareness, you end up inventing answers that feel true, but are often very wrong. Personality tests act like a mirror, reflecting your subconscious world back to you, and bringing it into your conscious awareness so that you can work with it.

There are many personality tests available online, many of them with a free version that allows you to do your basic typing. In my experience, the most helpful tests are The Enneagram, The Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator, and the DISC Model of Human Behavior. You can learn all about these tests and find the links to the best free versions online in my free E-Book The Happiness Key.

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2. Request Feedback from Friends and Colleagues

This is critical. You can’t become more self-aware by yourself. You need feedback from other people to help you see the things you can’t see about yourself; your ‘blind spots’. They’re called blind spots for a reason – you can’t see them.

You’ve probably noticed how people who are self-aware are easier to get along with and nicer to be around. Give yourself and others the gift of greater self-awareness with three techniques described in The Happiness Key and experience greater levels of happiness and success now! #selfawareness #emotionalintelligence #success #happiness #authenticity #fulfillment #mindset #successmindset #happiness #EQ #fempire #fempirecoachRequesting feedback can be a big, scary step. You might not want to hear how you’re perceived by others, in both positive and negative ways. But this is why 360-degree reviews are so powerful in the workplace; they make people aware of their patterns so they can adapt them and become more effective, relatable, and competent.

If you’re ready to be brave and take the step of requesting feedback, Dr. Eurich recommends these criteria:

  1. Ask the right people. Don’t ask your ‘unloving critics’, or people who are ‘loving but uncritical’ (those for whom you can do nothing wrong.) You need to find ‘loving critics’; the people who have your best interests at heart and are not afraid of telling you the truth you need to hear.
  2. Ask specifically what kind of feedback you want. Which kind of behaviors do you want to know more about and in which area? Give them something tangible to answer rather than a vague question like “What am I like?”
  3. Use the right process and give them context. For example, you could say “I received some 360-degree feedback from my colleagues and I really want to understand it better. Could you give me some honest feedback on the following areas?”



3. Change the word “Why?” to “What”

After researching thousands of people and finding the 10-15% of people who actually are self-aware, Dr. Tasha Eurich noticed a very striking pattern. People who were not self-aware were tended to always ask the question “Why?”. For example, “Why me?” or “Why does she behave that way towards me?” or “Why does that person always behave like that?” Their attention is on the other person and their perceived faults.

Instead, the people who were self-aware looked at themselves and asked how they could adapt in order to improve a situation. For example, “They are really adamant that their way is the only way. I wonder what I can do to help them see other options.”

This finding was so striking that Dr. Eurich did a whole TED talk on the topic: Increase Your Self-Awareness With One Simple Fix.

Groundbreaking studies have revealed that the happiest and most successful people are those who are highly self-aware. Give yourself the gift of greater self-awareness today with the techniques outlined in The Happiness Key! #selfawareness #emotionalintelligence #success #happiness #authenticity #fulfillment #mindset #successmindset #happiness #EQ #fempire #fempirecoachArmed with these three strategies, you’ll have a much better chance at becoming more self-aware. What is it costing you to remain in the 85-90% of people who are not actually self-aware? Greater levels of fulfillment? More happiness and success? I urge you to try these three steps. They won’t be easy, but they will help you beyond measure. Give yourself the gift of greater self-awareness and watch your life and business soar.


In service to helping you live your brightest life,

Kate De Jong, Ph.D
Fempire Coach for Thriving Female Entrepreneurs


Are you ready to develop your level of self-awareness even further and join the 10-15% of self-aware people who are loving life to the max?


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Create A Life You Love: How to Set Powerful, Heart-Centered Goals That Work

Create A Life You Love: How to Set Powerful, Heart-Centered Goals That Work

Do you have clear goals in place that allow you to intentionally work towards the future you desire? Do your goals feel really good and heart-centered? Read on to discover 6 easy steps to developing heart-centered goals that actually work! #fempire #fempirecoach #goalsetting #smallbusiness #womeninbusiness #womensupportingwomen #ladybosslife #entrepreneurlife #entrepreneurship #heartcenteredgoals #womeninbiz #womenempowered #girlbosses #businesschicks

Do you feel resistance when it comes to setting goals?


I know I have in the past. The whole process can feel too masculine, pushy, or ‘corporate’. 

I do, however, believe that the act of tuning into your heart to listen to what wants to be expressed or created through you is essential to creating a life you love. Without some form of heart-centered intention or goal, you can drift aimlessly in a sea of possibility without having anything secure to anchor yourself onto.

Research (like this) has shown that you feel happiest when you having something to work towards that allows you to really stretch, unleash your full creativity and potential, and contribute to something you care about.


A clear, heart-centered goal acts as an internal compass to guide your daily decisions towards your ‘true north’, allowing you to more intentionally create a life you love.


What do I mean by your ‘true north’?
I mean the genuine, authentic desires of your heart and soul. And heart-centered goals are the means by which you align yourself with your true north.
An essential component of setting heart-centered goals is the act of first tuning into how you want to feel. I give full credit to Danielle LaPorte and her Core Desired Feelings concept that has been a major force in shaping how I now approach goal-setting. Danielle was one of the first people to make me aware of how we have our traditional goal-setting processes backward. Traditionally, we focus on an end goal without taking the time to figure out how we actually want to feel, which often leaves us feeling empty and discontent when we actually reach the goal, because it didn’t actually make us feel how we wanted.

As a business owner, it's essential that you set goals to help you achieve your vision. Without goals, you're flying blind. However, your goals have to make you feel really excited and inspired. Read on to discover 6 easy steps to developing heart-centered goals that feel really good AND help you consistently hit your revenue goals! #fempire #fempirecoach #goalsetting #smallbusiness #womeninbusiness #womensupportingwomen #ladybosslife #entrepreneurlife #entrepreneurship #heartcenteredgoals #womeninbiz #womenempowered #girlbosses #businesschicks


A heart-centered goal lights you up just thinking about it. The thought of reaching it uplifts, inspires and motivates you.



Heart-centered goals lead to ‘inspired action’; tasks and actions that feel exciting and joyful. If you’re feeling the need to set some powerful, heart-centered goals for the year ahead that will actually get you to where you want to be, I recommend you use the following process. This may take some time, but I promise you it’s worth it.


How to Create Powerful, Heart-Centered Goals That Actually Work in 6 Steps


Step 1: Acknowledge & celebrate everything you did and experienced in the previous year, or the year so far.

Sometimes we don’t give ourselves enough credit for everything we do do, and instead focus on what we think is still missing. The simple act of documenting, acknowledging, and celebrating everything you did in the previous year lights the fires of passion, purpose, and creativity for the year ahead. Gratitude and appreciation for all the goodness that manifested in your life provides an inspiring and exciting platform from which to springboard into your dreaming and goal setting. The easiest way to do this step is to write it all down, making sure you document:

  • What you DID;
  • How you GREW;
  • What you LEARNED;
  • Which new CONNECTIONS or networks you established;
  • And any other highlights of the year that feel significant.

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Make sure you find a way to celebrate and give gratitude for all the goodness that manifested in your life. If it feels right for you, close your eyes and spend some time in quiet gratitude. Perhaps light a candle. Practicing gratitude stimulates all the wonderful high-frequency emotions that are necessary for getting into an effective frame of mind for goal setting (including appreciation, joy, optimism, hope, grace, ease etc).

Step 2: Tune into the vision and mission you have for your life.


To effectively map out exciting and magnetic goals it’s important that you first tune into a vision of your future that makes you feel really excited when you think about it, as well as your purpose. There is a subtle but very important distinction between your vision and your purpose. They’re very closely linked, but you can think of it this way:


“If your vision is the map, your mission (or purpose) is your inner compass.”

– Jeffrey Davis, Tracking Wonder


Your vision is the final destination you desire to arrive at. You need a map to show you where you are now and where you want to end up (your vision). Then you need a compass (your mission) to help you continuously point yourself in the right direction, in order to reach your final destination. Your vision summarises the qualities of the life you would like to live, while your purpose defines the details of how you serve others through your work.

Your purpose statement should contain a summary of WHO you want to serve, HOW you help your people, and WHAT the result will be from your actions. To help you get the idea and to stimulate your own reflective juices flow, here is my current vision and purpose (these tend to evolve as I grow and evolve):
What is your vision for your future? This might be something you’re very clear about. Or maybe it’s something that’s still a bit murky for you.
To develop your own vision, try to think about what your ideal, dream life would look like in 5 – 10 years time. What would you be doing? What kind of person will you be? What are the qualities of the life you desire to experience? What is the end destination that excites and uplifts you? And how would you define your personal purpose?
If these aren’t an easy question for you to answer and you need more help, please get yourself a copy of my FREE (but incredibly valuable!) E-Book: Pathfinding: How to Find Your Inspired Path & Purpose.

Step 3: Get clear on how you want to feel in the year ahead.

I believe this is the critical missing piece in all of our goal-setting processes. Failing to take the time to do this step might set you up to achieve goals that don’t necessarily make you happy or satisfied or fulfilled. To tune into how you want to feel, take some time to get quiet. Take a few deep breaths in and out. Place your attention into your heart space if you can. Take a few deep breaths and really feel into the energy in your heart centre. As you try to keep your focus there, ask yourself:


“How do I want to feel this year?”

Write down whichever words come up for you. My words for this year are:

If you need some inspiration for possible feelings, take a look at my Core Desired Feelings Library inspired by Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map. Click here to go to the Core Desired Feelings Library.



Step 4: Engage in divergent thinking to dream big and imagine quantum leaps for your life!

If you want to set exciting, uplifting goals, it’s CRITICAL that you undergo some form of DIVERGENT THINKING before you narrow yourself down and choose goals that you want to shoot for in the year ahead.

We use divergent thinking to CREATE CHOICES, and then we use convergent thinking to MAKE CHOICES.
An important part of the divergent thinking process is allowing yourself to DREAM BIG and to expect ‘quantum leaps’ in your life. In the video below, I describe how Price Pritchett defines Quantum Leaps in his book You2 – A High-Velocity Formula for Multiplying Your Personal Effectiveness in Quantum Leaps. I highly recommend reading his book if you want to learn more about his approach, which integrates quantum physics principles into personal effectiveness tools.

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Don’t you think it’s a pretty amazing thing that the only thing limiting us in life is our imagination? That we can literally do anything we want if our heart and soul want it badly enough? We get to literally dream up the life we want to live. As Price Pritchett says in his book You2:


“Seeking the quantum leap means violating the boundary of the probable. It means achieving well beyond the obvious. So don’t limit your desires to what you think you ‘can have’ …. start going after what you ‘want’. This means you must give yourself permission to dream, to risk. You must set yourself free.”
– Price Pritchett


Once you get clear and excited about what you ‘want’, you can create it through harnessing the proven physical laws of our Universe, including The Law of Attraction. To learn more about this, check out my articles:
Now that you understand what Quantum Leaps are, here’s how you can align your quantum leaps with your core desired feelings that you uncovered in Step 3.

How to do ‘divergent thinking’ that opens your mind to the possibility of ‘quantum leaps’.

Task 1: In your journal or notebook, write down all the words you chose as your CORE DESIRED FEELINGS for the year ahead on the left-hand side.
Task 2: Next to each desired feeling, make two columns. In the first column, try to brainstorm some ‘normal’ goals, i.e. what Price Pritchett would refer to as your 10% incremental goals. This is how we usually approach the goal-setting process, setting goals that we believe are within are ‘achievable’ range. In the next column, brainstorm some possible Quantum Leap goals, i.e. things that require you to stretch your imagination and dream bigger than normal. What would be REALLY AMAZING if you could achieve it next year? This is where you get to play with your imagination and dream up some really BIG and EXCITING goals!
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Step 5: Choose the goals you want to focus on in the year ahead.

Now that you’ve been through a process of divergent thinking, now it’s time to ‘converge’ and choose which goals you want to aim for in the year ahead. When doing this, remember that ‘more’ is not necessarily ‘better’. Choosing a few quality goals that are closely aligned with your desired feelings and desired quantum leaps will position you to live a wonderful year. Be sure to check each goal with these questions:
  • Will this goal help me feel the way I want to feel?
  • Is this goal aligned with my authentic heart’s desires?
It’s also important not to focus on a single outcome (e.g. Publish my book), but rather to set goals that define the various milestones you’ll need to reach in order to reach that outcome (for example: Finalise the book structure, secure book agent, submit first draft etc). This is called ‘chunking down’ the goals into tangible milestones that you can work towards. This is where you get the chance to be specific and set realistic, yet challenging milestones and targets.

To be effective, your goals need to feel like a stretch (but not too much of a stretch that it feels overwhelming), and they need to feel exciting!

This allows you to take ‘inspired action’ that feels good.

Step 6: Get your goals and milestones into your diary and put them somewhere where you can see them!

To make your goals real, you’ll need to schedule them into your Yearly Planner so that you can work towards them. Put them somewhere where you can see them and be reminded of them consistently.
Lastly, have a think about some support structures you can put in place to make sure you regularly check in with your goals and modify them if needed if they’re not aligning with your desired feelings. What support structures can you put in place? A vision board? Hanging your goals up somewhere where you can see them? Telling your partner so they can remind you? Telling a friend and asking them to check in with you? Joining a group that will actively support you in pursuing your goals?

If you learn how to set heart-centered goals, your business will really take off. Read on to discover the process I use repeatedly to grow my business and achieve everything I desire and more. #fempire #fempirecoach #goalsetting #smallbusiness #womeninbusiness #womensupportingwomen #ladybosslife #entrepreneurlife #entrepreneurship #heartcenteredgoals #womeninbiz #womenempowered #girlbosses #businesschicks

Once you decide on the goals, the actions and the support structures you’ll put in place to achieve your goals, you’re on your way!
I sincerely hope this article helps you set yourself up for a wonderful year and I wish you so much success and magic in creating the life you love.
In service to helping you live your brightest life,
Kate De Jong, Ph.D.
Fempire Coach for Thriving Female Entrepreneurs
How to Create More of What You Want Using the Law of Attraction – Part 2

How to Create More of What You Want Using the Law of Attraction – Part 2

Find out to create more of what you want through using the Law of Attraction


The following article is a continuation of my original article How To Create More of What You Want Using the Law of Attraction – Part 1

I recommend reading that one first so that the information I present here is in context.

In the video below I briefly summarise the major scientific breakthroughs that have confirmed a very important discovery – The existence of our HUMAN ENERGY FIELD and how we can impact our own human energy field through our thoughts and focus of attention.








The key points to understand so far are:


  • You are more than just your physical body. You’re surrounded by an energy field (commonly called your ‘Aura’) that emanates within you, around you, and out into the world around you. Your energy field is interconnected with the invisible web of energy that connects all of life. Einstein called it ‘The Field’, the Chinese call it ‘Chi’ and the Indians ‘Prana’. Gregg Braden calls it ‘The Divine Matrix’.
  • You can impact your energy field through your thoughts and beliefs. The quality of your energy field (and hence your health and your life experiences) can be directly improved through improving your thoughts, your beliefs and your focus of attention.
  • The Law of Attraction is the governing law in our Universe. It’s sometimes also referred to as the Law of Mirroring, because it operates on the principle that what you feel and believe internally, must be reflected (mirrored) in your external reality.
  • Manifestation = Clear Desire  +  Belief  +  Trust  +  Inspired Action.
    ‘Inspired action’ is action that feels joyful, exciting, and uplifting; you must feel inspired and excited by your desired end goal.


At the end of the teachings in Part 1, I recommended a number of tasks, including setting an ‘Abundance Goal’ in an area of life where you want to feel more abundance or joy. I explained that the goal should be something that gets you excited when you think about it and feels like a challenging but reasonable stretch from where you are now. The goal needs to make you feel good! And we discussed how the goal should be specific and clear, to activate the Law of Attraction more effectively.


How to Activate Your Abundance Goal Through Gratitude


Gratitude is the rocket fuel that turbo-charges the Law of Attraction!

Yesterday we talked about how our emotions have different ‘frequencies’, and the fact that positive emotions like love, joy, optimism, and excitement vibrate at a higher frequency than negative emotions. And since ‘like attracts like’ in the Law of Attraction, this means that positive emotions and feelings will attract more positive experiences into your life.

And there is nothing more powerful than GRATITUDE for helping you tap into positive emotions!


Have you noticed how good it feels when you take a moment to quietly reflect on the things in your life that make you feel really grateful? Just picturing something or someone you love and feeling gratitude for them instantly lifts your energy. Just as the opposite is also true – when you focus your thoughts and energy on someone you don’t like or who you feel has wronged you, you can feel your energy drop.

The whole process of manifesting what you want is made possible when you’re able to hold what they call ‘a vibrational match’ to that which you desire. When you really desire something and you hold it consistently as your focus of attention, you begin naturally attracting it towards you. And the more effectively you’re able to keep your thoughts and attention focused on the excitement of your desired goal, the more quickly the manifesting process is going to happen.


Gratitude gives you an instant boost of positive feelings and emotions, which in turn attract the positive experiences you’re seeking.


It’s easy to get distracted by the things that aren’t working so well in life. But even amidst your troubles and worries, try to keep your attention focused on the things that ARE working well and the things you can be grateful for.


Because what you focus on grows.


If you keep your attention focused on your frustrations and challenges, you will continue to experience and grow them. And conversely, if you keep your attention focused on the positive things in your life, you will continue to expand and grow those positive things.

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If you want to attract more of something into your life, you need to start focusing your attention on where that quality is already appearing in your life.


We’re often so focused on the LACK of something, that we fail to see where we’re already experiencing what we desire in smaller, more subtle ways.

For example, say you want to attract a partner into your life. What are the qualities that a partner would bring to your life? Perhaps a sense of connection, mutual love, respect, and adoration for each other. Where in your life are already feeling those qualities in your life, right now? Perhaps you have a wonderful relationship with your children, or another member of your family. Keep your attention focused on all those areas where you already feel connection, mutual love, respect, and adoration, and practice feeling extreme gratitude for those things, knowing that the more you focus on gratitude, the more you’re growiing those qualities in your life experience through your focus of attention.

One of my favourite Abundance mentors, Jeanna Gabellini, tells a story of how one of her students wanted to attract more money into her life. She was completely broke without a cent to her name. When Jeanna asked her to focus on where she was already experiencing wealth in her life, she found it impossible. All she could see was the lack of it. But she made the commitment to keep her attention focused on wealth and one morning she found a 10 cent piece on the ground outside her home. She picked it up and felt extreme gratitude that this sign of wealth was appearing. As she kept her attention focused on wealth and her desire for financial freedom, small signs of money started appearing, such as an unexpected refund from a store she had shopped at, and eventually she was offered a job she had previously been turned down for, and her abundance started flowing the more she chose to focus on financial flow.


You need to make a conscious choice to keep your attention focused on the evidence that your desired goal is already on its way.

Today’s Tasks

In this series of articles I’m showing you the steps you need to take in order to create more abundance in your life. The tasks below are tasks that you’ll need to continue doing each day. It should become a part of your daily life and a standard part of your morning routine if you are going to claim the life you want. It only takes 5-10 minutes a day but is absolutely critical to creating an abundant life! I do this myself each day, and if for some reason I forget, I can usually tell. Without the clear alignment each morning, my days become much less effective and flowing and I veer off-track from my joy and goals.


TASK 1 – Start an Abundance Notebook and commit to spending 5 minutes each day to write in it.

Get yourself a notebook that looks and feels good – i.e. you enjoy writing in it. By dedicating a notebook and 5 minutes a day to these exercises below you are claiming your right to more abundance and you are expecting that it’s already on its way.

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TASK 2 – Practice extreme gratitude

Every morning, write the first heading “Today I am grateful for…”. Write down a minimum of 10 things that you’re currently grateful for in your life. Gratitude immediately dials your energy into a higher frequency which is necessary for activating the Law of Attraction. Your internal positive emotions will be reflected in your outer reality.



TASK 3 – Write down your Abundance Goal each day

Under your list of things you’re grateful for, write down your desired ABUNDANCE GOAL. For example, “I have found my perfect life partner who loves and adores me. We feel deep connection, mutual love, respect, and adoration.”



TASK 4 – Gather evidence that your desired goal is already appearing in your life

Under your Abundance Goal, write down the title: ABUNDANCE EVIDENCE LOG.
Then write down every single way in which you are ALREADY experiencing the qualities you desire in your Abundance Goal. For example, if you’re wanting to attract a life partner because you want to experience deep connection, mutual love, respect, and adoration, then start recognising and acknowledging where you are ALREADY experiencing those feelings somewhere in your life, no matter how small and insignificant they may seem. For example, you may be feeling love and connection with your child, or with a good friend. Focus your attention on those feelings and give appreciation for them.



What you focus on grows and expands.


Jeanna Gabellini often says that in the beginning, you may have to “Fake it ’til you make it”. What’s important is that you consciously CHOOSE to put your focus of attention of where things are already working in your life. Because this attracts GROWTH and EXPANSION in those areas and more.


TASK 5 – Think of 3 inspired actions you can take today towards your Abundance Goal.

It’s essential that you accompany your inner alignment and positive emotion with consistent, inspired action! You must take action each and every day towards your goal for the whole process to work. And the actions must feel ‘inspired’ – i.e. joyful, uplifting, exciting and meaningful. If it feels like a burden and a struggle, then it’s not ‘inspired’ action. The criteria for inspired action is that it FEELS GOOD!


That’s it for your daily ritual. It should only take 5-10 minutes a day and you’ll soon realise that it’s the BEST investment of your time you can possibly make! Try to be consistent and don’t skip a day!


TASK 6 – Get your positive juices flowing by writing short answers to the following.


  1. I love that …
  2. I am excited for …
  3. I am open to receiving …
  4. Today is the day I …


Consistency and commitment are key to effectively harnessing the Law of Attraction.


Commit to doing this journalling exercise every morning for a month and observe the shifts that start happening in your life. This is really a ‘personal energy alignment’ that you’re doing each morning – aligning your energy with the positive feelings and frequencies that you want to attract, and therefore making yourself a ‘vibrational match’ to the things you want to manifest. And as we’ve learned, the Law of Attraction can only bring you things that are an energetic match to your own energy field. So when you’re continuously focused on the positives in your life, and the great feelings of having those things you desire (even when they haven’t manifested yet), you’re allowing your desires to come to you in the easiest, most effortless way.


Personal energy alignment  + Consistent, inspired action  =  Manifestation


This is not to say that you’re never allowed to feel negative or down. Of course you can, and you will. And you must – it’s part of the natural cycles of life. It’s impossible to feel ‘up’ all the time. And your feelings are there to be felt, so you need to turn towards your feelings and honour them. Give them the recognition and validation they’re seeking (just as mothers do for their young children). You have to feel it to heal it.

But when you’ve spent sufficient time honoring your feelings, return your attention to the questions outlined above to get your energy back on track and re-align yourself. Take as long as you need, but don’t allow yourself to stay ‘down’ for too long.

If you have any questions at all, please leave a comment below or send me a private email message. I’m always excited to connect with you and to help you where I can!

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In service to helping you live your brightest life,

Kate De Jong, Ph.D.
Fempire Coach

Bridging Science and ‘Woo-Woo’: Two Scientific Discoveries and Five Great Leaders Changing How We View the World

Bridging Science and ‘Woo-Woo’: Two Scientific Discoveries and Five Great Leaders Changing How We View the World

Explaining the closing gap between Science & Spirituality - and how they're not as far apart as many people think #science #spirituality #scienceandspirituality #quantumphysics #energy #spiritualbeings #humanexistenceScience is now helping us emerge from the cultural trance that haves us believe we are just our physical bodies and there is nothing beyond the physical senses. Scientific breakthroughs are confirming what ancient spiritual teachers have been saying for thousands of years:

There is more to you than meets the eye.


I feel compelled to write this article because the insight I’ve learned from discoveries in Quantum Physics that have been made in recent decades is so profound, that I believe everyone should know about it. Knowing about these discoveries has the ability to radically transform your life and help you tap into far greater levels of peace, happiness, abundance, and success.

I’m officially a Scientist by background and I was fascinated with science from a young age. I can still remember my Year 10 Science Project when we had to grow Penicillin by taking a swipe of mold from an old orange and grow it in Petri dishes containing prune-flavored agar which we made up. I thought it was amazing that this naturally-growing mold had the ability to save millions of people’s lives worldwide as an antibiotic.

I later chose to study Biotechnology at University which meant taking a deep dive into cell biology, molecular biology, genetics, fermentation biology, chemistry, thermodynamics, process engineering and more. After completing my Ph.D. in 2002, I worked as a consulting process engineer in the water industry for almost ten years.



During the final years of my Ph.D. research, my health started declining.


What started out as continuous physical and mental exhaustion, eventually turned into a mystery illness that doctors could only diagnosis as ‘chronic fatigue’. My immune system became so depressed that I was constantly battling chronic illnesses, digestion problems, and sleep distortions. Medical doctors weren’t able to help me and told me repeatedly that it was “all in my head”. But I knew there was something very wrong.

A person I met one day in the waiting room of a doctor’s clinic handed me a copy of Louise Hay’s famous book You Can Heal Your Life. It was a big turning point for me and the first time that I’d considered that my emotions and outlook on life could be causing the ill health I was experiencing.


Up until that point, I had believed that poor health was just something that ‘happened’ to us.


Explaining the closing gap between Science & Spirituality - and how they're not as far apart as many people think #science #spirituality #scienceandspirituality #quantumphysics #energy #spiritualbeings #humanexistence #lawofattraction #thesecretI had never stopped to consider that perhaps I needed to pay attention to my emotions or that my physical symptoms were my body’s way of bringing my attention to imbalances in my life. That all seemed far too ‘woo-woo’, and being a Scientist, that was not something I felt comfortable with. I was a proud believer that Science could explain everything and that if something couldn’t be measured, then it didn’t exist. I was forced to challenge those beliefs pretty quickly.

I continued to suffer terribly, waking each morning in a fog of exhaustion and chronic illness, dreading the day ahead. Around that time someone suggested I try Reiki, the ancient Japanese system for stress reduction and relaxation that also, coincidentally, promotes healing. It’s administered by “laying on hands”, allowing an unseen life force energy to flow through to the patient, facilitating healing and well-being. This seemed like a huge stretch to my fact-based, logical mind and I really struggled to get my head around it, let alone believe that it could work. But I was so desperate to feel better that I was willing to try.



But lo and behold, over time I started noticing a marked improvement in my stress levels, sense of well-being and overall health.


I struggled to understand how this seemingly passive technique of laying on hands and relaxation could actually be helping me heal, but it was. All I knew was that I definitely shouldn’t discuss any of this with my left-brained, rational-minded engineering colleagues at work!

I was so fascinated by what I was beginning to discover about emotions, health, and healing in my early twenties that I started reading any book I could find on ‘alternative’ healing practices. My mind was opening and I was astonished at how much of this ‘woo-woo’ world had actually been confirmed by science. Eventually, I found the Tara Centre in my hometown of Perth, Australia, who used a number of non-conventional techniques to measure and treat all the imbalances in my body. I also did regular meditation, journaling and emotional therapy (which I describe in my related articles The Healing Code: How to reclaim your health & well-being in three powerful steps and Soul-Care: 10 ways to soothe your soul in times of overwhelm). Within a period of around six months to a year, I slowly returned to optimal health and energy levels.


After my five-year struggle with chronic fatigue, it was such an enormous relief to finally feel healthy again. And I was now a firm believer in the power of ‘alternative’ healing practices and the power of the mind to heal ourselves.


And so I’ve continued to stand with one foot in the world of facts, logic and science, and the other foot in the world of spirituality and ‘woo-woo’ – bridging the gap between science and spirituality. But it’s not an easy bridge to uphold. So many people are still firmly entrenched in the cultural trance that says “You are just your physical body and therefore you can only be treated and healed through physical means. Poor health is just something that happens to the unlucky ones among us.” There is often a very large gap between those working in science and conventional medicine, versus those working in alternative therapies. People on different sides of the camp hold remarkably different worldviews and beliefs.


But this bridge between science and woo-woo is gradually closing through major scientific discoveries and breakthroughs, particularly in the field of Quantum Physics, which are gradually confirming what spiritual leaders have been teaching for thousands of years.


The two most mind-blowing discoveries in Quantum Physics from my perspective are:

1. Your thoughts influence the environment around you and shape your future.

As I understand it, matter can exist either as a wave or a particle. Things in the past have become particles, but future possibilities exist as waves or particles and have the potential to be influenced by our thoughts. Our thoughts have an energy field that impacts the potential form of matter. During experiments in Quantum Physics, it has been found consistently that the behaviour of waves and particles is influenced by the observers in the experiment. This has led Quantum Physicists to claim boldly that we have the ability to influence our reality through our thoughts and beliefs. Every thought and belief impacts the field around you. You can change your reality and all future possibilities through changing your thoughts.


Quantum Physics expained - waves vs. particles and your ability to influence future options through your thoughts and beliefs


2. There is one intelligent consciousness that permeates and connects the whole Universe.

Known by many names, like the quantum mind, Unified Field Theory, The All, God, universal consciousness, ‘Ki’ in Japanese, ‘Chi’ in Chinese, ‘Prana’ in India … whatever you want to call it, it is no longer just a philosophical, unproven theory on the fringe of metaphysics. It is now proven that there is one intelligent consciousness that permeates the whole Universe this all-powerful, ever-present, omniscient force also exists within each of us, including you.

I refer to it as the Universal Energy Field. We have the power to access this field through meditation, quiet time and reflection, prayer and connection to nature. Accessing the field can have these profound impacts (from the EOC Institute):

• Super powerful ability to self-heal
• Feeling more connected to all living things
• Better memory & enhanced learning abilities
• Access to life solutions, and a well-tuned “life navigation system”
• Profound levels of creativity
• Easily understand and root out all unnatural fear
• Super lucid clarity of thought
• More success in all life endeavors
• And many more universal mind benefits.

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But the ability to access this Universal Field of Energy through meditation, solitude, and prayer requires the suspension of all beliefs that say this isn’t possible, or that this whole concept is a bunch of ‘woo-woo’. I do believe that it’s only a matter of time before it becomes widely accepted that this is in fact how our Universe operates.

More and more doctors and scientists are coming forward with stories of their own intense spiritual experiences that have completely altered the way they view the world, and they are now leading the way in teaching and revolutionizing the way we think about our bodies, mind, and spirit.


Here are just a few of the world-leading doctors and scientists who have broken the mold of our cultural trance and are now leading the way, showing us how to harness spiritual laws and practices to enhance our lives:


Dr. Lissa Rankin, MD.

Lissa was a senior Obstetrician/Gynaecologist delivering up to twenty babies a day, working crazy, long hours, dealing with life and death situations and incredible stress all day long. During her ‘dark night of the soul’, she broke down completely and was forced to quit in order to save her own health. She went through some intense spiritual awakenings in the following months that completely changed her worldview. She is now a New York Times bestselling author of Mind Over MedicineThe Fear Cure, and The Anatomy of a Calling. She’s also a physician, speaker, founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute, and mystic. Passionate about what makes people optimally healthy and what predisposes them to illness, she says she “is on a mission to merge science and spirituality in a way that not only facilitates the health of the individual, but also uplifts the health of the collective.” Bridging between seemingly irreconcilable worlds, Lissa is a connector, collaborator, curator, and amplifier, broadcasting not only her unique visionary ideas, but also those of cutting-edge visionaries she discerns and trusts, especially in the field of her latest research into “Sacred Medicine.”


Lissa Rankin's Whole Health Cairn - the building blocks of a happy, fulfilled and inspired life

Dr Lissa Rankin’s whole health cairn concept

The key message I’ve learned from Lissa

Lissa developed the ‘Whole Health Cairn’ concept. She says “Research all over the world has shown that it’s not only that it’s critical, but the health of your relationships, your professional life, your creative life, your spiritual life, your sex life, your environment, your finances – in essence, the health of your mind – impacts your health far more than your diet, exercise, smoking, drinking, sleep habits, or how many vitamins you take”. She has a brilliant TEDx talk HEREFind out more about Lissa’s work HERE.




Dr. Bruce Lipton (Ph.D)

Bruce is a recognized leader in bridging science and spirituality. Originally a stem cell biologist, he’s also the bestselling author of The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter & Miracles and recipient of the 2009 Goi Peace Award. He’s been a guest speaker on hundreds of TV and radio shows, and keynote presenter for countless conferences. He’s known for his scientific work proving the impact of a person’s beliefs on their genes, DNA and hence health. He asks “What would your life be like if you learned that you are more powerful than you have ever been taught?”

The key message I’ve learned from Bruce

Your thoughts and beliefs have a very real and measurable effect on your health. Change your thoughts and beliefs, and your body will change to match them. Find out more about Bruce’s work here.



Dr. Brian Weiss, MD.

As a traditional psychotherapist, Brian was astonished and skeptical when one of his patients began recalling past-life traumas that seemed to hold the key to her recurring nightmares and anxiety attacks. His skepticism was eroded, however, when she began to channel messages from “the space between lives,” which contained remarkable revelations about Brian’s own family and his dead son. Using past-life therapy, he was able to cure the patient and embark on a new, more meaningful phase of his own career, helping others understand how to tap into the ‘space between realities’ in order to find healing, peace and happiness. He’s the author of the amazing book Miracles Happen: The Transformational Healing Power of Past Life Memories and many more.


The key message I learned from Brian’s work

There is overwhelming scientific evidence to show that we live multiple lives and it is possible to access information about past lives through past-life regression therapy in a safe environment with a trained psychotherapist. Past-life therapy has the ability to create massive breakthroughs in healing, inner peace, and happiness. Find out more about Brian’s work here.



Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, MD.

A famous neuroscientist, author, and inspirational public speaker, Jill is famous for her international bestseller My Stroke of Insight. She began to study severe mental illnesses because she wanted to understand what makes the brain function the way it does, following her brother’s ongoing struggles with mental illness. She was working in a lab in Boston in 1996, mapping out the brain to figure out which cells communicate with which cells, when she suffered a large and severe stroke when a blood vessel erupted on the left side of her brain. She had been able to witness her own brain begin to shut down within a span of four hours, and soon after she could not speak, read, walk, write or remember anything from her life. It took eight years to recover fully. She gave the first TED talk that ever went viral on the Internet, after which her book became a NY Times bestseller and was published in 30 languages.


The key message I learned from Jill

Our brain has two hemispheres that control different functions in our body. The left hemisphere controls our logical and rational thought and ability to function in the world. The right hemisphere is our creative, intuitive, thinking-in-pictures hemisphere. During her stroke, the left part of her brain shut down completely and for years Jill perceived the world only through her right brain, during which time she felt in complete bliss, peace, and happiness. She had to train herself very hard to re-develop the abilities of her left brain so she could function again. She believes that our right brain is directly plugged into the Universal Field of Energy and we can access it for greater health and happiness. Find out more about Jill’s work HERE.


Gregg Braden

New York Times bestselling author Gregg Braden is a pioneer in bridging science and spirituality. Following a successful career as a Computer Geologist for Phillips Petroleum during the 1970s energy crisis, he worked as a Senior Computer Systems Designer with Martin Marietta during the last years of the Cold War. In 1991 he became The First Technical Operations Manager for Cisco Systems, where he led the development of the global support team assuring the reliability of the internet in its early days. For more than 22 years, Gregg has searched high mountain villages, remote monasteries, and forgotten texts to uncover their timeless secrets. To date, his work has led to such paradigm-shattering books as Human By Design, The God Code, and The Divine Matrix: Bridging Time, Space, Miracles, and Belief.  Gregg’s work shows that the key to our future lies in the wisdom of our past.


The key message I learned from Gregg

We are all connected by a continuous field of energy that we cannot see, but nevertheless exists (with scientific proof to show it) and has a powerful influence on our lives. Gregg refers to this field of energy as The Divine Matrix. His central messages and themes are very consistent with those of the other scientists I mentioned above. Find out more about Gregg’s work HERE.


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Have I managed to convince you that there is more to our world than meets the eye and that you can harness the Universal Energy Field to drastically improve your life?



One of my great passions as a Life Coach now is helping you tap into (proven) Universal Laws to improve the quality of your life. I’ve put all my knowledge of these Laws into a series of blog posts that I would love to share with you because I know they will cause so many positive changes for you!

Get a cup of tea and head over to my very first article of the series and learn how to turbo-charge your life with abundance, peace, and prosperity!


Until next time, in service to helping you live your brightest life,


Katie De Jong, Ph.D.
Global Career Coach for Thriving Professionals
Inspired Careers International

How to Create More of What You Want Using the Law of Attraction – Part 1

How to Create More of What You Want Using the Law of Attraction – Part 1

Women's hands holding light with text overlay - Using the Law of Attraction - Create more of what you want - Part 1Before we get started on this journey of understanding and harnessing the Law of Attraction to create more of what you want, there are a few things worth mentioning up-front.


Depending on your beliefs and background, what you’re about to learn might challenge you to stretch beyond what you currently believe about who we are and how the world works.


I know that I personally had to shift my own perspective and beliefs in order to embrace what the great spiritual leaders have long been teaching us about Universal Abundance Laws and how they work.

My journey into challenging my own beliefs started when I was in my early twenties. I developed the mystery illness ‘chronic fatigue’, which I suffered for many years. It was a debilitating condition that made me feel continuously exhausted and unwell, affecting my whole life. When medical doctors were unable to help me, I was forced to approach the ‘alternative’ healing sector, which challenged my own beliefs about health and the mind-body-spirit-connection. The key message I needed to embrace in order to heal myself was this:


You are more than just your physical body.


We all have a field of energy around us – which I will refer to as the Human Energy Field. This energetic field extends several feet to several metres beyond our physical skin. All of our physical problems begin with a distortion in this human energy field, predominantly through dysfunctional beliefs about ourselves / others / life, and the longer these distortions persist, the more likely we are to develop a physical symptom. Blockages in our energy field eventually become blockages in our physical bodies. And many of the ‘alternative’ healing methodologies rely on ancient wisdom and knowledge that has been passed down through the generations, which work on improving the human energy field (releasing blockages), in order to heal the physical body.

When I was ill with chronic fatigue I was amazed and surprised at how much benefit I received from alternative healing techniques like Reiki, Tai Chi, energy work, hypnosis and Bioresonance (a technique where distortions in your energy field are measured and corrected). These techniques were so effective for me, which I found hard to rationalise with my logical mind. I now understand that these healing modalities are effective because they work on healing the human energy field, and this healing eventually filters down into the physical body. I also discovered that I was able to impact my own energy field directly through my thoughts, beliefs and my focus of attention, to eventually heal my physical symptoms.


Consistent, negative thoughts become blockages in our energy field, which eventually become blockages at the physical level. And the opposite is also true. Consistent, positive thoughts expand and nourish your energy field, resulting in not only improved health, but also increased levels of abundance, ease, and flow.


In my introductory video below, I talk about major scientific breakthroughs that have confirmed the existence of our human energy field and how we can impact the energy field through our focus of attention.

The key points to understand from my video above are:


  • You are more than just your physical body.
  • You are surrounded by an energy field. The existence of this human energy field has been confirmed through MANY scientific experiments and discoveries (some of which I talk about above in my video).
  • The quality of your energy field (and hence your health and your life experiences) can be directly improved through improving your thoughts, your beliefs and your focus of attention.
  • You have the power to create more health, vitality, joy, ease, and ABUNDANCE in your life through shifting the quality of your thoughts, beliefs and focus of attention. And in the following three days I’m going to show you how.


Bruce Lipton, Ph.D, has played a key role in raising our awareness of the links between the physical world and the energetic/emotional world. He wrote the famous book THE BIOLOGY OF BELIEF in which he proved that our beliefs impact our health and our DNA.

Here’s what Bruce says::

In The Biology of BeliefSpontaneous Evolution and The Honeymoon Effect I discuss ‘invisible forces’ influencing our lives. Young people who have been exposed to the mind-bending tenets of quantum physics throughout their lives may underestimate the revolutionary nature of its findings. I on the other hand was trained in conventional medicine, which separates the invisible from the visible, the spiritual from the non-spiritual, matter from energy, the mind from the physical body. The truth is that all of those dichotomies have been proven false by quantum physics, which has found that the universe is not as Newtonian physicists or pharmaceutical researchers or atheist scientists have imagined it. Instead, the Universe is as the ancient wisdom of aboriginal cultures conceived it. Aboriginal cultures do not divide the world into rigid categories like rocks, air and humans, for they are all imbued with Spirit, with invisible energy. Matter and energy are completely entangled just as aboriginal cultures knew instinctively and quantum physicists proved. To quote Albert Einstein: “The [invisible] Field is the Sole Governing Agency of the Particle.”

Dr Bruce Lipton, Ph.D.

Cell Biologist, Specialist in Epigenetics, Author of the International Bestseller THE BIOLOGY OF BELIEF and more


So much about your journey into abundance is about being open-minded and allowing yourself to experience life differently. I invite you to keep an open mind and trust that what I am about to share with you really works!


Did you know that the single governing law in our particular Universe is the LAW OF ATTRACTION?


If you want to understand Abundance, you need to understand the LAW OF ATTRACTION. And there’s been a lot of misinformation out there about how this Universal governing law works.

Do you remember all the hype surrounding the movie “THE SECRET” when it came out all those years ago? The movie was all about the Law of Attraction. I really liked the message in the movie, but despite their best intentions, I do feel it comes across a little simplistic and materialistic, telling people they can have whatever house or car they desire if they can just imagine having it. Many people miscontrued the movie to be promoting the idea that “If you want a Ferrari, you just need to visualise yourself owning a Ferrari, put it on a Vision Board and look at it every day, and eventually you will own a Ferrari.”

But I’ve since realized that there’s a little bit more to it than that.


The Law of Attraction teaches you how to be a co-creator in your own life.


The Law of Attraction is basically this: Like attracts like. Whatever you hold in your thoughts, beliefs, and focus of attention, ultimately becomes your reality. So within, so without.

Medical Intuitive Teal Swan calls it the ‘Law of Mirroring’, which means that our reality is simply a mirror of the thoughts we hold internally.

Teal says regularly: “If you focus your thoughts on something, it must show up in your reality.” It’s a Universal Law.

This is how I’ve come to understand that the Law of Attraction works:


Clear Desire + Belief + Trust + Inspired Action

= Manifestation



The key is to let your imagination run wild and to feel into what you would really, really like to manifest in your life. And here is the catch – most of us are trained to think a certain way. We have so many beliefs about what we think we can and can’t have, and when we focus on what we would really love to create in our life, we come up against all the internal, negative programming that tells us we can’t have that.


We’re not trained to dream big.


In fact, most of us have been taught to keep our dreams small. But you can strengthen this ‘dreaming muscle’ and over time and it does get easier, especially when you start seeing the signs of what you desire appearing in your life!

When you’re able to imagine having, being or doing something you care about deeply, something that feels joyful and exciting, you create an energetic ‘blueprint’ for what you desire. That blueprint emanates out into your human energy field – setting forth the forces of attraction that bring an energetic match to that blueprint into your reality.

Acting and behaving as though you already have what you want is a surefire way to activate the Law of Attraction, because as Wayne Dyer always said, we attract into our life things that match our current energetic frequency.

Woman wearing necklace standing by window with text overlay - You don't attract what you want. You attract what you are.When you step back and surrender, and (importantly) believe and trust that you can and will have the thing you desire, then quite miraculously, what you desire starts turning up in your life somehow. Not always straight away (although sometimes it does!). But the steps to reach it will start appearing right in front of you. And when you commit to taking inspired action to make it happen, you help it to manifest in your reality.


It’s called CO-CREATION – intentionally creating what you want through harnessing the Law of Attraction.


‘Inspired Action’ is action that feels fun and joyful. It’s important to pursue actions that feel light, fun, and meaningful because your emotional state is what determines how effective the Law of Attraction will be.

Did you know that different emotions carry different frequencies? There is now scientific evidence that shows that emotions like kindness, love, compassion, and joy cause our human energy field to ‘vibrate’ at higher frequencies than emotions like boredom, sadness, listlessness. And emotions such as anger, hate, and rage vibrate at very low frequencies.


And since ‘like attracts like’, emotions of a higher frequency will attract in life experiences of a higher frequency.


A lot of us have a strange relationship to our desires.

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We try to suppress them or keep them small because we believe we shouldn’t want too much and we’re afraid that if we allow ourselves to want something, then we’ll be disappointed if it doesn’t show up.

Getting clear on what you want is not easy for two reasons:

1. You might not know exactly know what you want;

2. You might believe it’s not possible to have what you really want.


However, before we go any further, you must understand this:

1. It’s OK to have big desires! You have them for a reason. They contain the seeds of your most fully expressed life.

2. You’re allowed to have big desires and more importantly – you deserve them. Abundance is your birthright and you’re supposed to claim it.

3. You have FULL permission to desire everything you desire.


If you feel any resistance to the above three points, don’t worry, that’s completely normal; it’s the unconscious programming that has generally taught you the opposite throughout most of your life. Just allow the resistance to be there. But don’t let it deter you!


If you want to intentionally bring more of anything into your life, you first need to get clear on exactly what you want. The clearer you are, the more effectively you can harness the Law of Attraction.


Did you know that we usually have our goal setting process around back-to-front?


When trying to figure out what we want, we usually devise goals that (unconsciously) we think are going to make us feel a certain way. But often it turns out that the goals we devised didn’t actually end up making us feel the way we thought they would. For example, perhaps you feel that when you get a promotion and become a manager and a higher salary, you’ll be able to buy the home you want and finally feel happy. Except when you finally receive that promotion and you have the new home, you realise soon after that you still feel empty and restless inside.


To be more effective in your goal-setting, you first need to uncover how you want to feel – and then devise goals to more intentionally help you feel the way you actually want to feel.


If you’re feeling stuck and you’re not sure how you want to feel, please take a moment to browse through the library of images contained in the Core Desired Feelings Library that contains more than 100 FEELINGS (based on Danielle LaPorte’s original concept of Core Desired Feelings). Getting clear on how you want to feel can be a very powerful way to set goals that really get to the heart of what you want to experience.


Ready for more flow of abundance into your life? Try this!

Choose ONE area of life in which you’d like to experience more abundance, and get very specific about exactly how you want it to manifest.


Clarity of intention is everything in the Law of Attraction.


Task 1 – How do you want to feel?

Think about how you want to feel  within the next few weeks/months. If you need help figuring out how you want to feel, be sure to have a browse through the Core desired feelings library.

When you get clear on how you want to feel, write it down. Use 3 – 10 words to describe how you want to feel.


Task 2 – Visualise a goal you would like to manifest

Take a few long, deep breaths and breathe into your belly. Feel it moving in and out.

Now close your eyes and imagine a GOAL that will help you FEEL how you want to feel. Write it down.


Task 3 – Make the goal specific and make it feel good!

Make the goal very specific. If you want to experience more financial freedom, write down how much money you want to make and BY WHEN. The goal needs to feel like an exciting stretch – not too much of a stretch that it feels overwhelming and impossible, but one that would be really fun and exciting to achieve.

If you want to attract someone into your life, get very specific on what that person looks like, what their personality is like, what you love about them and what they love about you. Where do they live and what do they do?

If you want to experience more flow and abundance in your business, what would that look like specifically? How many clients would you like each month or how many programs would you need to sell, and how easily would you find those people? Get specific on how your business would look and feel.


Remember, the more specific, the more effectively this will work!


That’s it for today. I hope you’ve learned something new and have been able to come up with a clear and specific GOAL to focus on; the first critical step.

I’ll be continuing this article in my next post called How To Create More of What You Want Using the Law of Attraction – Part 2, where we’ll be focusing on the power of GRATITUDE and how to FOCUS YOUR ATTENTION to activate and turbo-charge your abundance experience!


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In service to helping you live your brightest life,

Kate De Jong, Ph.D.
Fempire Coach

The Art of Dreaming Big: How to Harness Your Imagination and The Law of Attraction to Create What You Want

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Do you allow yourself to dream really big? Are you preventing yourself from experiencing greater levels of success and abundance? Read on to find out. #lawofattraction #dreambig #dreambelieveachieve #manifestation #motivation #inspiration #inspirationalquotes #motivationalquotes #busninesssuccess #entrepreneur #mindset #success #tips #steps #careerHave you experienced first-hand how the magic of the Law of Attraction can work in your business and life?


In 2015 I completed a great course for entrepreneurs and business owners called ‘Profit Quest’ by Jeanna Gabellini at Masterpeace Coaching. This was my first introduction into applying Law of Attraction principles into my business.

Her tagline that drew me into the course was:

“Double your profits, double your fun!”

When I first saw her promotions I thought “Wow, that’s a big call.” Can I really double my profits and double my fun in my small coaching business by the end of her course?

I enrolled in her course to find out and lo and behold – it appears her system really works.


It’s powerful and yet it’s so simple. And it’s based on the Law of Attraction.


Do you remember the big ‘hoo-ha’ surrounding the movie “The Secret” when it came out all those years ago? The movie was all about the Law of Attraction. I really liked the message in the movie, but at the time I thought it was also a bit simplistic and materialistic, telling people they could have whatever house or car they desire if they could just imagine having it.

But I’ve since realized that there’s much more to the Law of Attraction.


The Law of Attraction teaches you how to be a co-creator in your own life – to align yourself with a vision you love and then allow it to unfold.


The Law of Attraction is basically this: Like attracts like. So within, so without.


When you imagine having, being or doing something you care about deeply, something that feels joyful and exciting, you create an energetic ‘blueprint’ for what you desire. When you step back and surrender, and (importantly) believe that you can and will have the thing you desire, then quite miraculously, what you desire starts turning up in your life somehow. Not always straight away (although sometimes it does!); but the steps to reach it will start appearing. You’ll start getting intuitive insights into what you need to do. Suddenly you’ll meet the right person, or you’ll find the perfect resource to help you take the next steps.

The key is to let your imagination run wild and to feel into what you would really, really like to manifest in your life. And here is the catch – most of us are so trained into thinking a certain way; we have so many beliefs about what we think we can and can’t have. And when we focus on what we would really love to create in our life, we come up against all the internal, negative programming that tells us we can’t have that.


We’re not trained to dream big.

In fact, most of us have been taught to keep our dreams small.


One of the tasks we had to do early in the Profit Quest course was to define exactly how much money we would love to make by the end of the year, if everything in our business suddenly started aligning and flowing. This was quite difficult to do. At first my head took over and I wrote down a number that I thought I ould realistically achieve.

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That number, however, is not a number that got me excited or inspired. We were asked to write down the dollar amount that would make us feel super excited – not a number too far out of our league that it feels impossible and overwhelming (hence leading to disappointment and fear of failure), but a number that feels like a big stretch, but also feels energizing and exciting.


So I wrote down a number that felt super exciting.

At the time I wrote it down, I didn’t actually believe that I could make that much money, but I thought it would be cool if I did!


When you allow yourself to think big like that, all of a sudden things start showing up that align with that vision. Since adopting this technique, I’ve experienced major positive growth in my business, all because I’ve managed to make big shifts in my internal mindset around what is possible for me, my business and my clients.

Jeanna makes a digital and hard-copy journal available called Speed Dial the Universe, which has been an incredibly powerful tool for me. It’s a daily reminder to dream big and to set your internal compass towards allowing miracles to manifest in your life. I was skeptical at first, but my experience with it has shown that it really does work. The journal is a fun way to start your day because it focuses your mind, body, and soul on positive outcomes that you desire in your life.


Here’s How The Law of Attraction Works

Manifestation  =   Clear Desire  +  Surrender + Trust  +  Belief  +  Gratitude 

The Law of Attraction explained in simple terms #LOA #personal growth


First, you need to be able to dream big and set a big, clear intention about what you want to create.



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This isn’t easy when we first start out. Our internal beliefs put all kinds of limits on what we think is possible. But you can strengthen this ‘muscle’ and over time, if you commit to doing this practice daily, you will find that you’re able to allow yourself to dream bigger and bigger. And when you start seeing the signs and small steps of what you desire appearing in your life, it’s so much fun!

The other important ingredient is surrender. You have to set your clear intention and then let go. This part can be really hard! We’re so used to controlling everything we want to create in our lives. However, without surrender, you can’t be in a receptive state and be open to receive the insight and wisdom that’s trying to be transmitted to you.

And finally, belief. This is very intertwined with surrender and can be difficult. With many things that I write down in my journal, at the start I’m not sure I actually believe I can have those things. But I’m willing to write them down. And with this simple act, it opens the floodgates for possibility, belief, and optimism to flow in. And this allows us to start behaving as if we already have the thing we desire. This in itself opens the doors to miracles.


So when you start acting as though you already are someone who has the things you desire, you become a ‘vibrational match’ to the things you want, and you start attracting those things into your life.


Discover how the Law of Attraction ACTUALLY works and start manifesting greater levels of joy and flow in your biz and life! #lawofattraction #dreambig #dreambelieveachieve #manifestation #motivation #inspiration #inspirationalquotes #motivationalquotes #business #entrepreneur #mindset #success #tips #steps #careerFeel like giving it a try? Start dreaming big, focus daily on the things that you would really love to create in your life and then sit back and enjoy the ride. And let me know if anything shifts for you. As always I would love to hear from you!

To read more about The Law of Attraction and how to apply it in your life, take a look at my two recent blog posts:



In service to helping you live your brightest life,

Kate De Jong, Ph.D
Fempire Coach for Thriving Female Entrepreneurs
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